Significance of Premarital Counselling
The social institution of marriage has gradually shifted from its real purpose of uniting two significant souls together, to the more ineffectual condition of grand celebration and exaggeration. People are more inclined to pay keen attention in the appearance and grandeur of the celebration. Most of them are fascinated with the thought of executing all the responsibilities included in the ceremony of marriage with the best efforts. Not many of them take time for thinking about their responsibilities and duties involved in post-marriage life. The celebration and all gleams and glows that are the inclusive part of it, manifests the grandeur of the purpose. But here, the purpose is deemed to be little and superficial.
Immediately after the announcement of an engagement of a couple we first rush to plan for its celebration. Have we stopped to consider how much preparation and support this new couple will need for this decision of lifetime? We only stay focused about all superficial conditions and ignore the ultimate virtue that lies in beyond the courtship of marriage. The eternal bonding of marriage not only just brings two living soul together for the sake of it, the relationship is formed with the intention of making it a happy experience and everlasting. But lack of planning and preparation before marriage, can lead a married couple to multiple complicacies and can also jeopardize the harmony in a relationship. Hence, there are a surge in the numbers of divorces, marital issues and problems. Nowadays people are more susceptible to fall prey of these complicate issues in life and goes astray from the real purpose.
Therefore, the concept of premarital counselling is spiking up and is deemed to be the prevailing aspect in a marriage planning. With the current phenomenon of poor post-marital relationship and increasing complicacies, the initiative to curb down such problems has been incepted. People fail to recognize the real purpose of their bonding and put more focus on planning for the celebration and other superficial elements. Especially, in arrange marriage the couple hardly gets time to get to know each other and readily accepts the fact of getting married in no time. Hence, this doesn’t allow the individuals to spend some quality time in sharing their own views and opinion and also to comprehend the perception of each other.
Also in love marriage, many couples are largely found to be dealing with some worst marital complicacies. Many love birds believes in the fact that the small glitches in their love life will gradually fade away after marriage. But this wrong notion brings up more complicacies in their future life. Hence, the premarital counselling not only helps a couple to know each other in a better way but also guides them in dealing with each other’s traits.
The premarital counsellors mainly focus on four significant factors while counselling your issues. And these four factors are based on:
- Comprehend significant traits of your partner: It is very essential to learn about the chief traits and attributes of your partner. Preferring positive over the negative attributes of your partner and showing gratitude towards them can help you to build a strong foundation of a healthy marriage
- Empowering interpersonal skills towards marriage: It is extremely important to learn some essential interpersonal skills to tackle any situation in marriage. The premarital counsellor enables couple to target their core interpersonal and relationship skills. Hence they become more aware of the areas that are potentially controversial and can take measures to overcome them.
- Share and combine future aspirations: A married couple is supposed to share each other’s dreams and help in idealizing their aspirations. If both the support is constituted together then only it can fetch an outstanding result. But often it becomes hard for many couples to share each other’s dream or aspiration. This brings complicacy and misunderstandings. Hence the premarital counsellors help you in sharing all your feelings and dreams with your better half.
- Issues from past: Many couples confront problem after marriage when they hear about a past relationship of their better half that was all hidden from them. Often many men/women fails to share about their past relationship to their would-be life partner and still continues to fantasize about their past. This can turn out to be a devastating situation in your married life if not spoken about it at the right time. The premarital counsellors help to share your feelings with your partner and provide ample support to deal with it appropriately.